This post explores the way that boundary problems can impact the way that we are in relationship with others. Often boundary problems cause us to attempt to read other people’s minds in attempt to help them or put them first. Rather than asking them for their thoughts or feelings we can fall into the trap of protecting others rather than allowing them the opportunity to have their own experiences, identify their thoughts and feelings, and respond themselves. This inhibits others from growing in their ability to be vulnerable and prevents us from experiencing authentic intimacy with others.
This post contrasts denial and ownership, as it pertains to self-awareness and growth, and explores relationship patterns of under-owning in narcissists and over-owning in caregivers.
This post compares the personality trait of authoritarianism to the schema Punitiveness and offers useful tips for dealing with the schema of Punitiveness.
This post explores the impact of not receiving validation from those close to us. This post also includes steps to take to increase likeliness of receiving and giving validation.
This post explores the challenges of coping with COVID or other situations which have a high level of uncertainty. Post encourages individuals to explore their feelings and needs and practice naming them. Additionally, this post questions the American value of self-sufficiency and whether that is helping individuals to ask for help or get their needs met. Tips are provided to assist individuals in exploring their thoughts and feelings about their capacity to ask for and accept help from others and how this impacts their self-image.
This post explores the Psychological principles of Cognitive Consistency and Schema and the impact they have on relationships and Mental Health.